Husband and wife are called to a function regardless of how the other is doing with their part.
You, must know who you are in the story of marriage. You, are creating a storyline, and the storyline is not your own. You, will have to know who you are, and if you do you not know who you are in the story, you can never know how to act the part, what to say, or what to do. But, if you know who you are in the story, you will always know what to do.
The wife plays the role of the church. She is not her own, and it’s not for her glory, but its the glory of the kingdom of heaven. She declares the beauty of a glorious church to the world as she learns to submit.
The husband represents Jesus Christ. He is not his own either, he can not do his own thing, or is his own authority, but under Christ’s authority. He allows no corruption to the home, or to the wife, as he leads. He paints the brush strokes of Jesus Christ as he deals with his bride.
In this play or theater , all the lines are impromptu. They come at random times, and so our only hope is to have our lives filled with the love of Jesus Christ. Wives are the student of the church, husbands of Christ, and this is the framework of the entire thinking, so no matter what, they know who they are, and they know their lines.
Pastor Scott Brown
19 Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;
20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.